Anonymous: you can ignore the other question about moving groups ive talked about it and she has said yes! now i need help, in detail what do i say to my old group?
i think you just need to go to your old group one day and for the people who you think you will miss like the closest people in the group, ask them if you can talk to them privately. try and be honest and be careful of how you say things. Before you speak tell them to listen and not say anything until you’ve finished. Tell them that you will most likely be moving groups soon and that you still love them and want to hang out with them but you have other really good friends who you would like to hang out with for a while aswell. :-) I don’t think you should just leave it and move because one of my friends did that and we all thought we had done something so its best to be honest and make them understand its not because of them :)
Anonymous: i want to move groups but i dont know how to leave the 3 people i like in the other (one being one of my besties) and i dont know how to enter the other! id be less comftarble in the new one but id prefer it :/ once i was. if any of this makes sense HELP!
i think if you feel like you will be happier in the other group then go! it is your happiness that is most important. i know loads of people who have been unhappy and moved groups and stilled stay friends with the other girls in the other groups (my sister for example) The thing you need to do first i think is make sure you can move to the other group so since your best friends with one of the girls in the other groups talk to her about it or slowly start hanging out with that group more. You can either distance yourself from the group you sit with now without saying anything and move into the other growp or tell them that you want to move groups and will be sitting with them a lot now but reassure your best friend that you love them so much and will still want to stay as good as friends as you are now. i think the best way will be about being honest and open. no lies. explain yourself accurately and assertively but being mindful of the other girls feelings :-)
Anonymous: i need advice please, ok so the people i sit with now i only like 1-3 people (our groups merged so there is a bunch i dont like at all!) i dont like sitting with them i feel like a total loser (because they are not very popular - not that im judging on that) there is another group at my school who i like a lot better one of my best friends is in it but we dont hang out all the time and also a good friend but the other people i dont know very well and im afraid they wouldnt like me. PART 1
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Anonymous: i do apprieciate my life meg, and knowing that people dont get to live theirs makes me feel so guilty. but there is nothing i can do, i am worthless and alone and life wont ever be good for me because i dont deserve it. the only reason i keep living is because i can help people, like make money to donate and help out my friends. how i feel is NOT my choice meg, its depression, and i can't fight against it. please help me.
i’m so sorry i haven’t replied in ages, i forgot my password :/ i feel really guilty about not replying and i hope you are alrightt <3
ok i totally get it. You didn’t choose depression, it chose you. You didn’t want it or didn’t mean to get it, you just did. But that doesn’t mean you can’t fight it. I know you feel useless and like you have no chance of winning but you do. Everyone does. I’m just going to guess how you feel and i may be totally wrong or maybe a bit right, but just listen. I’m guessing you feel like you are totally alone when you are surrounded by people. Not because they ignore you but because they don’t understand. They can’t. They never know how you feel and it makes you feel isolated, like theres never anyone there. The only thing surrounded you is pain. It’s controlling your life. You want a way out so badly but theres this. All that stuff there, it’s just me guessing. No one knows how you feel because you’re you. You are the only you. Sounds crazy but when you think about it, it’s true. No one can ever tell you how to fix your life and how to feel better because you are the one who knows yourself the best. Somewhere inside of you theres a voice. You probably can’t hear it but it’s there and it knows exactly how to fix your life.
Ok so i admit, i rambled up there. But theres always this. Anyone who is depressed can actually help another depressed person. And while they do that, they help themselves. So i asked my friend who is depressed to say what she would say to you. And this is what she said: i know exactly how she feels. and that she deserves to be on this earth, everybody does. she is not worthless, she is a beautiful human being, with out seeing her face. if helping people is something you want to do, keep on doing it for the rest of your life. its gets better, it might not feel like it now, but it does. im not saying that the feelings that you are feeling will just magically go away when i say that it gets better, but you just needs to remember that. and when the time comes that you are feeling better about life, thats when you can finish your dream of helping people have a better life that you now lead. in saying that, i still feel sad and alone. but if everyone who feels like that can know that others feel the same way, you can feel less alone
I personally love what she just said (: Because really the best advice i can give you is the advice of someone else. Sure i could tell you little exercises to make yourself slowly feel better but that doesn’t mean they work. But even still exercise only take you so far. You need to believe in yourself before any of that even happens. You need to think that you are not worthless and that you do deserve to be alive. And i can’t make you think any of that, only you can do that. Because in the end, you will always have yourself and if you can’t trust yourself than who can you trust? If you don’t try and don’t believe you are worth it then theres nothing anyone can do. Sure we all can help you on the way but in the end, it’s just you. You make the difference, you give yourself encouragement and advice. You survive.
I have no idea if any of that helps but if it doesn’t ask again and again and again, that’s what i’m here for, stay happy xx
